Saturday, January 29, 2011

MLI notes from retreat #4

Here are my notes from the fourth missional leadership initiative retreat with Reggie McNeal. If there is something in quotation marks and it doesn't say who it's from then it is likely a quote from Reggie. He is 'the man' by the way.

DAY ONE: Monday, January 24, 2011 - Afternoon/Evening
  • Christian Community Development Association (CCDA) stuff... John Perkins. One of their motto's: 'You can't commute to your ministry.'
  • "Delegation is not abandonment."
  • "We're not creating missional stuff; we're deciding to join what God is already doing."
  • When did I first realize I was called to be a leader???
Mission/Call stuff:

1. What do I need to say "no" to?
  • DISTRACTION - The enemy of mission loves to distract us. Knowing why we're here allows us to say no to distractions.
  • DEBILITATION - Don't get debilitated by things that sap your energy. Guard your time; set boundaries.
  • DISCOURAGEMENT - Don't let discouragement drag you down. Learning to say no to discouragement means we need to pattern into our lives things that bring us encouragement. (The Beethoven story where the 1st violinist turns him around to see the applause because he's deaf. Who's helping turn me around to see the applause?)
2. What do I need to say "yes" to?
  • Say yes to the original dream... what I wanted to accomplish at the beginning (What is my original dream???). Our sense of mission has to transcend a job; however that will give color to it.
  • Say yes to core values that support your call. Not what you say you believe, but how you live. Don't self-sabotage your life mission by how you're living.
  • Say yes to your talent.
  • Say yes to results. We've got to know that we're making progress (however we want to measure it).
  • Say yes to learning/unlearning. Growing, keeping nimble, staying afloat, are you still growing intellectually, etc.
COHORT EXERCISE: ***(I need to revisit this. Often)***

Articulate my life mission and call. Write no more than three sentences about what it is, and then answer these questions: In order to fulfill my mission I need to 1) Stop ___________, 2) Start ____________, and 3) Continue _____________?

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DAY TWO: Tuesday, January 25, 2011
  • Morning Devotion - The story behind the song 'God of This City.' What breaks your heart? That's the point that you've got a mission.
  • "The threshold into missional living is the point your heart was broken for something."
  • We claim to be married to God (as the bride of Christ)... so do we know what touches God's heart? (Do you know what touches your spouses heart?)
  • We need a refresh button at the top of our page. That's what the Sabbath is supposed to be.
  • "If you don't hammer your job description to fit you, then your job description will hammer you to fit it."
  • "The issue is RHYTHM, not BALANCE (balance is a myth)."
  • "Jesus recruited small business owners, not seminarians."
APOSTOLIC LEADERS ARE...
- visionary
- kingdom-oriented
- entrepreneurial (risk takers) (bad weather doesn't stop Disney, they take advantage of it)
- developers (develop other people)
- team players
- spiritual

  • "People can be developed into apostles" (?? I think that's what he said).
  • "Apostolic leaders wake up with a different set of things on their mind than church stuff."
  • Reggie said: "I don't know of another denomination in America that is being as intentional about being missional than yours."
  • Random stats: 73% of births to African Americans were to single parents last year. 41% of all babies.
Four Areas of the PERSONAL LEARNING PATH:
1. Paradigm (worldview) - How we see things.
2. Microskills - competencies.
3. Resources - prayer, people, time, money, facility, technology.
4. Personal Development - family, emotional health, spiritual formation.
  • Listening - if someone comes to complain, write down what they say and read it back to them ("Is this what you're saying?"). It helps you to help them process things, rather than just being a dumping ground.
Tuesday Afernoon - CREATING A CONGREGATIONAL LEADERSHIP COMMUNITY:

"Create a leadership team that is willing to charge hell with a water pistol" (I was hoping for more from this session, because this is where I need the most help. I was a little disappointed).

PARADIGM - How are we bringing leaders along?
  • Ask people what breaks their heart.
  • Have community leaders come and speak to our leaders about needs in the community.
  • Lead them through some visioning exercises.
  • You must sell the problem before trying to sell the solution.
  • **Immersion Excursion - spend a night on the street, or something. Immerse yourself in a situation to see what it's really like.
  • How do we train our people to be missionaries rather than just good club members? (for instance, office people can put a prayer box on their desk, etc...).
MICRO-SKILLS - What should I train my leaders in?
  • listening skills
  • people skills
  • communications skills
  • get people to fall in love with Jesus by seeing Jesus in the world
  • sensitivity training
  • etc.
RESOURCES
  • prayer-scaping, prayer-walking, prayer-driving, concert of prayer (spend a sunday service actually praying for the community), etc.
  • limit in-church responsibilities; don't allow people to spend more than x number of hours at the church; etc.
  • etc.
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT - paying attention to your leaders personally.
  • Thank them!
  • Ask what's going on in their life.
  • etc.
Cross-cohort assignment (evening) -
- Create a 12-month Congregational Leadership Development Path consisting of Paradigm, Micro-Skills, Resources, and Personal Development (target, delivery system, curriculum, etc.).

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DAY THREE: Wednesday, January 26, 2011 (Morning)

Morning devotion - Ebenezer... Take a moment and just celebrate the fact that you've made it this far...

Reports from Cross-Cohort Exercise - Observations I picked up on:
  • Leaders selected because of: vision, influence, willingness.
  • Matthew is a good missional gospel.
  • Pick apostolic early-adopters.
  • Have meetings in the community (at a restaurant, coffee shop, etc.).
  • Personal note: I think the process is going to take way longer than we think.
  • Personal note: I think it's a huge mistake to think the whole church is going to be involved in this.
  • Personal question: Do you force current leaders into it, or not make them be involved?
  • Send people out in "sighting groups." Then debrief.
  • Tom's question: "If we were going to plant a church here, who would want to be involved in that?"
  • Don't bore people to death with meetings and retreats. Confront people with a few things over and over (subversive hammering).
  • On-the-job training. Sink or swim. Just-in-time learning.
  • Use existing venues and recontent them (don't create new classes or meetings, just change what you're doing in your present classes and meetings).
Leadnet.org - supposed to be resources there.

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Next time our discussion will be about: Change & Transition, and Post-Congregational Church.

Reading for next time: Managing Transitions (3rd Edition): Making the Most of Change, by William Bridges.

First cohort assignment: Bring my leadership development plan for my church.