Wednesday, May 23, 2007

A sad story

Jane's brother (the one in the pic who walked her down the aisle) called the other night. Pretty unusual for any of her brothers to call. This particular one has just never had any luck whatsoever. He dated a girl for a long time, then suddenly broke up and moved away. When their dad died, he moved back around home, met a girl in a bar, and was married 3 weeks later (or something like that). They moved out west, but eventually got divorced. He met another and got married again. They split up a few years ago, but had just never got around to getting a divorce. So... a couple of weeks ago she dropped in for a visit. They had a nice chat, and he finally gives her the papers to sign - which she did. That night she died of a heart attack. Apparently he is still responsible for all her medical bills, funeral expenses, and whatever else - even though they hadn't lived together for quite some time. And of course he feels totally responsible for her death. Man, I feel sorry for him. If you are the praying type, or if you'd like to start, he could sure use all the help he can get. Jane too. What do you say to someone in those circumstances? One of the nicest guys in the world... just can't get a break. And I can't believe he waited 2 weeks to tell anybody in the family. But, what do you say...

6 comments:

MR said...

Does he feel responsible because the divorce was not something she wanted?

Anonymous said...

A reminder that might life is a walk in the park...:/

And, yeah, religious platitudes don't do a BIT of good for anyone when they're down. Don't you thing y'all's genuine concern and love and empathy and encouragement is about the only way you can go? Maybe gently reminding him he's NOT responsible for her death....

p e a c e to all

~ Robin

dan said...

MR,
I'm not absolutely sure, but I don't think that's the case. I think they had agreed to get a divorce some time ago, but then last year her mother died, and then this year his mother died, and... you know... it just never happened. But I don't know too many specifics. I think it might have been more a case of - she didn't want to be married, but wanted someone to support her. I dunno.

dan said...

Robin,
Thanks for the comment. Yes, I agree. But... man, what's with all the typo's!?! :) (especially for you)

Whisky Prajer said...

Man, what a story. Strange how some people have a run like his that just doesn't want to break -- Slaid Cleaves people, in a way. I'll certainly raise him in my thoughts and prayers.

Darrell

dan said...

Thanks Darrell.