Presuppositions

I am in the process of taking a Udemy course for another Life Coaching certification. This one is taught by Kain Ramsy, and the other day he covered what he calls "presuppositions," or core beliefs important for good coaching. Hopefully he won't mind me sharing, but I thought these were good. Not only is it helpful when addressing clients, but I would like to do a better job of holding onto these in everyday life. They are good reminders for us all.

LIFE COACHING PRESUPPOSITIONS:

1. No such thing as a bad intention. In other words, an individual is not their behavior. If/when we do stupid things, it is not likely we woke up intending to do so. It simply seemed like the best course of action at the time. What we often need is a picture of a better way. We can't jump to conclusions about what we think people's intentions are/were. A coach's job is often to help people reframe their reality to see the better way forward.
2. The past doesn't equal the future. We usually base the decisions we make based on what we have done in the past and the resulting consequences. As life coaches our goal is to help people see that just because something happened this way in the past doesn't mean it always will.
3. No one is broken. Thinking we are broken and beyond repair is a limiting belief that, while it may seem true to us at the time, simply is not in reality. What people often need is to be shown the light about who they/we really are.
4. Everything is achievable. There is nothing people cannot achieve if they have the right strategy (time, preparation, training). Good coaches will help you develop this strategy. [Though I might argue the value of skill to some degree].
5. Empowerment comes via responsibility. Many live disempowered lives because they haven't taken full responsibility for their lives. Just because things have happened to us, we always have a choice in how we act and respond. Realizing this empowers people to develop the resilience to push through setbacks.

Again, I really liked these. They seem so simple, but it's often the simplest, most elementary of beliefs that can derail us. I see that as one of the main directives of coaching - reminding people of the truth and helping them realize a different alternative.