I write how I talk but I don't talk how I write

I've always tried to write like I talk. Whether writing a speech, sermon, or even here on this blog, I want it to be conversational. That's the style of writing I choose.

However, it dawned on me the other day... even though I try to write like I talk, I don't necessarily talk like I write. 

It's more likely I write like I WANT to talk. In my mind I see myself talking with this calm, reasoned delivery. I can be passionate and compassionate, and it's all with the conversation in mind.

But the reality is, my talking to people in real life is not like that. My talking is influenced by my shyness, moodiness, and other feelings I may be experiencing; not to mention things like alcohol, caffeine, time of day, etc.

I'd guess I am not the only one like this. How many arguments or misunderstandings have resulted from email and/or social media posts where the writer and reader were not writing and reading in the same manner?

Anyway, I was thinking, maybe I need to work at trying to talk like I write as much as I try to write like I talk. I think my relationships would be better if I could be more present emotionally - rather than scattered here and there trying to follow them around.

Something like that...