Suicidal Stress

I went to the doctor this morning for a re-check. I thought a rectal exam was bad... but then on my way home I stopped to talk with a friend. What do you tell someone when they say they're thinking of killing themselves? It put my doctor visit into perspective.

You would think I would know how to deal with depressed/suicidal people better... I've been there myself. But, the truth is, I don't know if anyone really knows what to do. Everyone is different. And I don't know that there really is a "right" thing. When a person is feeling that way, reason is unreasonable; nothing makes sense; hope is just a word.

This is not sceintific evidence, but here are some things I do know:
- This is not a time to not do anything. The excuse of "I just don't know what to say" is lame. Quit worrying about yourself.
- Prayer is vital. On-the-spot prayer. Ask God to give you the words; to give you wisdom; discernment.
- Don't assume the person knows how you feel or what you're thinking. They need to be told they are important -- over and over and over.
- Be positive, but not mushy or cheery.
- Listen to what they say. Listen intently. Respond to the things they tell you, rather than changing the subject and talking about something else.
- Just be there.

I am no expert - this is just my opinion - so don't give it any more weight than that. I simply wanted to write it down to remind myself.

I hurt for my friend. Emotional pain is the worst kind. It should not be dealt with alone. When people are going through rough times... I don't care what they've done or what's at stake, they need support; they need to know people love them; they need to know they are valued - even if they messed up (maybe especially if they messed up).

Lord, I ask for wisdom for myself. I ask for strength for my friend. You know what they need. Peace.